It was certainly a new experience for me, but I do like the idea of getting together with friends and family to celebrate the life of a loved one who has died. I know for me, as the date comes up for my Gramma, I like the idea of having friends and family around as I remember her. Many times during the year, the loss of a loved one will hit you. There are moments where the loss is harder than others and I imagine the year mark will be one of those for me.
Last year while I was finishing up school and going through the application process for Peace Corps, a friend of mine died and my Gramma. This year, my aunt has died and a friend’s sister. I thought I had been doing ok with working through my emotions, but a few nights ago my family took me to the tailor’s house. He has a shop next to my family’s and his mother died about a week ago. Hindu custom has the people in mourning (I’m assuming the offspring and siblings) be in a room made with straw mats. The day I went was the eighth day so I know this happens at least on that, but I am not sure about how long.
Friends and family come to sit outside the room, which for the tailor was outside the house and he was covered in blankets. There did not seem to be much conversing with him while he was in there, but he did wave to me. Talking was ok, but loud talking was not. My dai played a game with some other men there. I sat there trying not to cry even though it was not what I would call a somber atmosphere. I know I have been a little off as I have been processing things, but I thought I had been doing well until I came there. Actually, I have been
As much as I love where I am at, I am glad that training is coming up. It is for two weeks and the days will be eight hours long, but it will be good to connect with people besides a phone call. I had decided to come a day early prior to this for other reasons and especially after God ministering to my heart, it is a good decision so I can take some time before training.